High Functioning Anxiety: What It Is, Signs, and How to Cope

Many of us know at least one person who always seems “on.” They might be high-achieving, seem calm and successful, but also never quite able to relax. Maybe this person is you. 

You might be the one everyone counts on. The one who takes on extra tasks and makes time for others’ needs but not your own. To everyone else, you get things done and are always so organized, but inside you’re constantly overthinking, can’t seem to relax, and feel like you’re “not enough.” This is often what we mean when we talk about high-functioning anxiety.

My name is Georgia Kulok, LMSW, as a therapist with Madison Square Psychotherapy, I’ve seen the toll that the pressure to always be “on” and the constant worry and self-criticism can have on people. I've also seen how presenting outwardly as capable yet struggling internally can eat away at our sense of self. In this article, we’ll look at what high-functioning anxiety is and its signs, as well as how to treat high-functioning anxiety.

What Is High Functioning Anxiety?

Anxiety is extremely common, with about 44% of adults in the U.S. experiencing symptoms of some form [1]. 

”High-functioning anxiety”, while not an official diagnosis, is the term we use to describe someone who seems to be functioning well and succeeding, yet is still experiencing substantial worries. 

The word “functioning” is misleading, though. Just because you’re meeting deadlines, getting promotions, or keeping life organized doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doing well mentally, emotionally, or even physically.

7 Signs of High Functioning Anxiety

The signs of high-functioning anxiety in adults aren’t always obvious because some of them are behaviors our culture rewards, especially living in New York City. Being organized, thoughtful, ambitious, or dependable isn’t inherently unhealthy. It’s more about what’s driving these behaviors and what they’re costing you.

Here are seven signs of high-functioning anxiety that we commonly see:

1. You Overthink or Overanalyze Almost Everything

One of the most common signs of high-functioning anxiety is constant overthinking or indecisiveness. You might get stuck replaying conversations and reviewing past decisions, or become easily overwhelmed by what might happen. Even relatively small decisions can feel exhausting.

2. You Fear Failure or Disappointment

High-functioning anxiety can make small mistakes feel unusually threatening. For instance, you might experience debilitating anxiety around making a small typo in an email, worrying that the other person will think you’re “stupid” or not capable. Even constructive feedback can feel like proof of failure. So, you might spend more time than necessary perfecting something because turning it in before it feels “just right” is too uncomfortable.

3. You’re Always Preparing for What Could Go Wrong

Uncertainty can feel threatening, so a lot of anxiety can come from unpredictability.2 So you might always prepare for the worst-case scenario. For instance, maybe you always arrive 20 minutes early because you fear being late, research every possible outcome, or create backup plans for your backup plans. 

Being prepared can be useful. But when preparation comes from anxiety, it teaches your brain that you need all sorts of precautions to stay safe. Then you need to prepare just as much, if not more, for the next situation.

4. You Have a Hard Time Saying “No”

For some people, symptoms of high-functioning anxiety can show up as not being able to say “no” or set boundaries in relationships. People-pleasing is often linked to heightened anxiety [3]. So, instead of saying “no”, you might agree to help someone even though you’re exhausted, or you avoid expressing your own opinion because you worry it’ll upset someone else. Usually, the anxiety underneath such actions is telling you that saying “no” is selfish or that it will make someone angry or disappointed.

5. Rest Makes You Uncomfortable

Another sign of high-functioning anxiety is being unable to rest. Staying busy often keeps uncomfortable thoughts and feelings at bay, and slowing down creates space for them to come creeping back in. You might also feel guilty for resting. So instead of allowing yourself to enjoy an open Saturday afternoon, your brain starts listing all the things you could be doing with that time.

6. You Experience Physical Concerns

Just because it’s considered “high functioning” doesn’t mean anxiety stays only within our thoughts. Anxiety also impacts us physically and can increase our risk for health problems like heart disease and depression [4]. With anxiety, you might also experience tense muscles, headaches, stomach discomfort, racing heart rate, and fatigue.

7. You Procrastinate to the Last Minute

Anxiety is often associated with procrastination, so many people with high-functioning anxiety put off tasks until the last minute [5]. This might seem inconsistent with the way you see high-functioning anxiety, but when push comes to shove, and the deadline arrives, people with this issue often panic.

Procrastination may be a way of subconsciously coping with overthinking and worrying about every detail of a task, so you put off completing it for as long as possible. It’s only when the anxiety of not finishing at all is greater than the anxiety of doing it perfectly that you’re able to start, which is usually the last minute. This can create a rush of adrenaline, which then reinforces the idea that you do your best work at the last minute.

How to Deal With High Functioning Anxiety

Dealing with high-functioning anxiety isn’t always easy, and it’s not about becoming less motivated or stopping everything that makes you successful. Usually, the goal is to create more flexibility and less rigidity in how you respond to the anxiety. 

Here are some strategies that can help you cope with the anxiety:

1. Recognize and acknowledge these symptoms for what they are: It’s easy to blame ourselves and get stuck in thinking something is wrong with us. Instead of thinking things like Why can’t I do this perfectly?,or Why do I always overthink everything?, acknowledge that it’s the anxiety making you second-guess yourself.

2. Give your mind a container for the worry: Telling yourself to Just stop worrying about it usually doesn’t work. Instead, write down what you’re worried about, and then ask yourself what you actually know, what you’re trying to predict, and whether there’s something useful you can do right now. Sometimes there’s an action you can take. Other times, the work is tolerating the fact that you don’t always get to know exactly what will happen.

3. Pay attention to your body: If your anxiety tends to live in your shoulders, stomach, jaw, or sleep patterns, working only with your thoughts may not be enough. Try taking a short walk, loosening muscles that are tense, pressing your feet into the floor, or slowly lengthening your exhale. The goal isn’t to force yourself into perfect calm. It’s to give your nervous system another signal besides Keep going.

Some people also wonder about high-functioning anxiety medicine. Medication can be part of anxiety treatment, particularly if you’re experiencing severe anxiety that is significantly impairing your life and functioning. A physician or psychiatrist can help determine whether medication is appropriate for your specific situation.

Our Approach to Anxiety Treatment at Madison Square Psychotherapy

At Madison Square Psychotherapy, we don’t assume anxiety looks the same for everyone. Some people come to us because they avoid opportunities for fear of failure, while others take every opportunity and run themselves into the ground trying to succeed.

Using a combination of approaches like cognitive behavioral and psychodynamic therapies, our therapists help you understand where your anxiety patterns may have come from and whether they still serve you. Treatment with us might involve challenging anxious thoughts, becoming more comfortable with uncertainty, exploring perfectionism, or considering how earlier experiences might have influenced high-functioning anxiety. 

We also know that high-functioning anxiety and depression can sometimes overlap. You can remain productive while feeling exhausted, disconnected, hopeless, or emotionally flat. High-functioning depression and anxiety can be particularly easy for other people to miss because your life may still look fine from the outside.

Therapy gives you somewhere you don’t have to act being fine.

Find Therapy for Anxiety in NYC

Don’t wait until the anxiety becomes debilitating to get help. 

If your mind rarely stops, your accomplishments never feel like enough, or you’re tired of carrying pressure that others don’t seem to see, we can help.

At Madison Square Psychotherapy, we provide therapy for high-functioning anxiety in NYC and work with clients who want to understand their anxiety rather than become better at pushing through it.

To get started, schedule a consultation with one of our therapists. If you aren’t sure who would be the best fit, we can thoughtfully match you with a therapist based on your needs.

FAQs About High-Functioning Anxiety

If high-functioning anxiety is impacting your well-being, sense of self, and relationships, you might still have questions about what it looks like and what might help. Here, we’ll address some of the questions we often hear from clients.

What Does High-Functioning Anxiety Look Like?

High-functioning anxiety often looks like success and accomplishment from the outside, but worry, fear, and self-doubt on the inside. You might be successful at work and meet deadlines, but privately fear letting people down and question every decision. You can appear calm and capable while feeling intensely anxious.

High Functioning Anxiety vs. Generalized Anxiety Disorder: What’s the Difference?

The main difference between high-functioning anxiety and generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) is that high-functioning anxiety isn’t a formal diagnosis, whereas GAD is a recognized mental health diagnosis. Another difference is the response to the anxiety. People with high-functioning anxiety will usually push themselves to do more or be more for fear of letting others down or not being enough. In contrast, people with GAD usually withdraw, shut down, or remove themselves from situations that cause anxiety. 

Someone who identifies with signs of high-functioning anxiety could meet the criteria for GAD or another anxiety disorder, but not everyone does. A therapist or other mental health professional can help you better understand what you’re experiencing.

Is High-Functioning Autism Related to Anxiety?

High-functioning autism and anxiety are two different concepts. Just like “high-functioning anxiety” is an informal term, so is “high-functioning autism.” The latter is a term used to describe someone with autism who appears to function well with little impairment. 

Autism and anxiety are separate conditions, although anxiety is common among adults with autism and may be affected by things such as sensory overload, social situations, or changes in routine [6]. A person with autism can experience anxiety while also appearing highly capable in school, work, or everyday life. But this doesn’t make autism a form of high-functioning anxiety, or vice versa. 

Written by: Georgia Kulok, LMSW

Clinically Reviewed by: Kristin Anderson, LCSW

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